Do you remember the name Crowley who in 1931 was deemed one of the most dangerous criminals NYC has ever seen. Kind of odd that a man who’s nick name was ‘two gun’ didn’t think he was wrong. In fact in a letter he wrote about himself, he mentioned his “weary and kind heart that wouldn’t harm anyone”.
After being sentenced to the electric chair Crowley said, ‘this is what I get for defending myself’.
How about Al Capone, we remember his name. A notorious gangster that ran the streets of NYC and then Chicago’s. Well, he didn’t think he was wrong either.
He said, “I’ve spent the best years for my life giving people the lighter pleasures, helping them have a good time”.
Recently I was working with a group I wasn’t getting the results I wanted. I thought to myself over and over again, why aren’t they doing this or that, why can’t they understand?
Then I thought to myself, what I am doing wrong. At first, I couldn’t figure it out, my directions were clear, my expectations didn’t seem to be too much.
But I continued to think ‘how can I change’, ‘how can I make an adjustment to get them to response differently’.
The truth is, we never think we’re wrong, it’s always the other person/people. Many times we’re pointing the finger but don’t take responsibility.
So here’s what happened, I changed my attitude, my perspective, changed the program and you know what. This group changed too. They started doing what was expected, what was asked. The energy changed in the room, they got more out of it and so did I.
Something to think about if you aren’t getting the end result you’re looking for. Maybe, just maybe, it’s not them. It’s you.